Here you'll find some suggested samples of vows, they can provide a starting point or a guideline for you to use as they are or to help you write your own.
Your vows are your promise to one another, what you mean to each other
and what you wish for and intend in your life together.
It can be helpful to write them all in one go or to allow it to develop over time.
It's entirely up to you and there's no right or wrong way, try not to stress over it.
I'm here to help in any way I can.
If, how to write a vow, what to even say or the actual act of reading them out
is causing you stress, please reach out to me.
I have loads of experience in this area and there are ways we can work it
to help with all of that, I promise!
Take a look at the Q & A type vows at the bottom of the page, they may appeal to you more,
we can discuss all this in your planning meeting.
I also create a beautiful keepsake vow booklet for all my couples
so you can read your vows from it on the day, no need to memorise them!
“I, _____ take you, _____ to be my wife/husband. I will share my life with yours, and build our dreams together, support you through times of trouble, and rejoice with you in times of happiness. I promise to give you respect, love and loyalty.”
“I take you _______ to be my wife/husband. You are the brightest light in my day. Despite our differences you choose to see the best in me always. You are my best friend and the love of my life.”
“ ______, I take you to be my friend, my lover, the mother/father of my children and my wife/husband. I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health. I promise to cherish and respect you, to care and protect you, to comfort and encourage you and to stay with you for all eternity.”
“I, ______, take you ______, to be my wedded wife/husband. I give to you in the presence of these witnesses, my promise to stay by your side, in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, through good times and bad. Always be open and honest with you, and cherish you for as long as we both shall live.”
“Today I promise you that though the world may change and though we may change with it, I will always love you, treasure you and I will share all that I am with you. I am so proud, that from this day forward to be called your wife/husband”
"Today, ______, I take you to be my wife/husband. I make a commitment to you today: With God's help I will love honor and protect you. I promise to spend the rest of my life with you. I will walk with you when times are good and through every storm.”
“Today, I pledge my love to you. I promise to be faithful and supportive and to always make our family's love and happiness my priority. I will be yours in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health, in failure and in triumph. I will dream with you, celebrate with you and walk beside you through whatever our lives may bring. You are my person—my love and my life, today and always.”
"You are my best friend, mentor, confidant. But most importantly, you are the love of my life and you make me happier than I could ever imagine. You have made me a better person. I am truly blessed to be a part of your life, which as of today becomes our life together.”
“I ______, take you ______, to be my wife/husband, my constant friend and partner, and my love. I will work to create a bond of honesty, respect, and trust; one that withstands the tides of time and change and grows along with us. I vow to honour and respect you for all that you are and will become, taking pride in who we are, both separately and together. I promise to challenge you and to accept challenges from you.
Our home will be a sanctuary and a respite for us and for those whom we cherish. Above all, I will give you my love freely and unconditionally.
I pledge this to you from the bottom of my heart, for all the days of our lives.”
“Today is mostly an ordinary day. The sun rose, babies were born, people slept in and we just so happened to be getting married.
But the not so ordinary part is how we are making promises to each other for the rest of our days, no matter how ordinary or unusual they may be.
SO I PROMISE YOU
To always laugh with you and to never go to bed angry,
To comfort you in times of sorrow,
To always listen to what you have to say, even when we don’t see eye to eye and to remember love is saying “I feel differently” instead of “you’re wrong”.
But most of all, I promise to love you, under any circumstances, happy or sad, easy or difficult, through the sunshine and through the rain for the rest of my days. I am the luckiest person and I can’t imagine growing old with anyone else.”
“I cannot promise you a lifetime of sunshine, I cannot promise you riches, wealth or gold, I cannot promise you an easy pathway that leads away from change or growing old. But I can promise all my hearts devotion, a smile to chase away your tears of sorrow, a love that’s ever true and ever growing a hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.”
“All that I am and all that I have, I offer to you, my love, my friend – in joy, in service, in sacred union.”
“ ______, I will share and support your hopes and visions, helping to fulfil them in any way I can. I will strive to maintain joy, imagination, and newness in our union. I will keep our highest good as my first intention. I will never do anything to compromise what we have, and in keeping with this, I will remain conscious to never take you for granted. When life becomes difficult, I will share your burden and divide your pain. I will give you strength of spirit, nurture your body, and protect your heart. I will also continue to take care of myself, to inspire your love, and to ensure, as best I can, that you’ll always want what you have. When you laugh, I will share and delight in your joy. I ask that we challenge each other to become all that we can be. My hands will be forever open to you so that we may continue to walk this world together. I cannot express in words how much I love you, and it would take me a lifetime to show you just how much you mean to me. And that is what I intend to do, spend my life with you, demonstrating my respect, my admiration, and my love, completely and forever.”
“Thank you for coming into my life and for being such a wonderful partner.
______, I choose you to be my husband/wife. In the knowledge that I will never do this perfectly, I promise to, as consciously as I can, always be grateful for your presence in my life. I promise to choose my words with care, knowing that what I say to you will either nurture our love or begin the process of its destruction. I choose to create a safe haven for you to grow and be; a place to heal and to feel accepted. I offer my care, my comfort, my love, my wisdom, truth, patience, and kindness, and when necessary, my forgiveness. I offer the gift of listening – listening to your joys and sorrows, confusion and tribulations. I promise to treat with care your emotional well-being. I will celebrate your joys and victories and rejoice in your achievements. I promise to remember love is an action and not a feeling, and to act that way always. I’ll be your best friend. I promise to always be truthful and faithful to myself and to you. I promise to take good care of myself, because without me there is no us. I commit myself to my own growth, and to yours, in this bond of marriage.”
“I believe in you, the person you will grow to be and the couple we will be
together. With my whole heart, I choose you acknowledging and accepting your faults and strengths, as you do mine. I will be yours in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health, in failure and in triumph. I will dream with you, celebrate with you and walk beside you through whatever our lives may bring. I promise to be faithful and supportive and to always make our family’s love and happiness my priority. I take you to be my spouse. I promise to love you in word and deed, to do the hard work of making now into always. To laugh with you, cry with you, grow with you, and create with you. To honour the goodness in you, of you, and around you. To be your partner in all of life’s adventures. Loving what I know of you and trusting what I don’t know yet, I give you my hand. I give you my love. I give you myself.”
“ ______, with a free and unconstrained soul, I give you all I am and all I am to become. I give you my heart and with it faith, respect, patience, and love, for all the days of my life.”
“From this day on, I choose you, my beloved ____, to be my husband/wife. To live with you and laugh with you. To stand by your side, and sleep in your arms. To bring joy to your heart and food to your soul. To bring out the best in you always, and to be the most that I can be. To laugh with you in the good times and to struggle with you in the bad. To give you solace when you are downhearted. To wipe your tears with my hands. To comfort you with my body. To mirror you with my soul. To share with you all of my riches and honours. To play with you as much as I can. I promise you this, from my heart and with my soul, for all the days of my life.”
“I ______, accept you ______, as my husband/wife/partner in life. To join our lives and energy together. To spend our days in friendship and love. To support and encourage your growth as my own. To always be open and willing to listen. To seek to be centred in love and serenity through all the changes of life. To nurture and tend the divine light in you and in myself. To manifest the highest good for ourselves, for those we love and for beings everywhere.”
“In the presence of this community, I, ______, choose you, ______, to be my partner from this time forward. To love you. To be a comfort and safe haven in your life. To hold you close. To listen deeply when you are sad or angry. To learn compassion with you. To nourish you with gentleness. To love your body as it ages. To weigh the effects of the words I speak and of things I do.”
“ ______, I take you to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife. Before these
witnesses, I vow to love you and care for you as long as we both shall live. I take you, with all your faults and your strengths, as I offer myself to you with my faults and my strengths. I will help you when you need help, and will turn to you when I need help. I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.
“I promise to you today, before God, our family, and friends, to stand by your side, and unfailingly share and support your hopes and dreams. I vow to always be here for you through thick and thin. When you fall, I will catch you. When you cry, I will comfort you. When you laugh, I will share your joy. No matter what lies ahead for us, I will see it as a journey –
one that can only be completed by the two of us together. From this moment, everything I am and everything I have is yours, and for eternity, my love for you will remain.”
“______, from this day forward, I will be here for you. I will sing your joys, cry your sorrows, and stand by your side through whatever life may bring your way. From this day forward, through good times and bad, I will live with you, change and grow old with you, and do all that I can to keep our marriage strong and happy, and alive with possibilities.
From this day forward, I will cherish you. With joy, I look toward the path of our tomorrows, finding peace and happiness, knowing we will walk together, side by side, hand in hand, and heart to heart. We have waited such a long time, and now that we are here, let us make our joys and dreams come true, with our love growing through the years.”
“Love has given us wings, and our journey begins today. ______ and ______, wherever the wind may carry me, I will stay by your side as your
husband/wife. Where there has been cold, you have brought warmth,
Where my life has been dark, you have brought light. From this day forward, let us make our two lives, one life, and let us always care for and respect each other. I ______, take you ______to be my (husband/wife), knowing in my heart that you will be my constant friend, my faithful partner and my one true love. I promise to be there when you need me, to fill your days with love, to comfort you and encourage you, to help you reach your goals and to love you with all of my heart, for all of my life. I give you this ring as a symbol of our love. With it, I wed you, and give you my body, heart and soul.”
“The day I met you I knew you were the one for me. I love you so much and I am so happy that we are here today to show our love to one another and share it with our loved loves. I always dreamed of the perfect partner, but you have gone beyond all my dreams. You make me whole, you complete my life. There are no words good enough to tell you how much I love you, but I hope that you can feel it in your heart. I want you to know that I will always love you unconditionally and I promise that I will always be there for you whenever you need me. I am honoured to have you as my husband/wife and I will forever do my best to make you the happiest and most loved man/woman on earth.”
“______, do you, in the true spirit of sharing, wish to live your life with ______? Will you honour and respect each other’s rights as individuals and will you cherish your love for each other as you both flourish in the bonds of marriage?”
“______, I promise always to love, honour, and protect you; to promote your dreams and aspirations; to share in your triumphs and failures; to be true to myself and true to you; to cherish your laughter and your beautiful smile; to build a loving family; and to nurture our love forever. I say these things with all my heart.
“______, I love, respect, and honour you above all others, and I am committed to our partnership in life. I promise to express my thoughts and emotions to you, and to listen to you in times of joy and in times of sorrow. I will strive to broaden our horizons, expand our boundaries and explore the wonders of life
with you. From this day forward, I will join you as your life companion, offering to you the essence of all that I am.”
“_______, I promise to strengthen our love with every passing day, to listen to you with my heart, to catch you if you fall, to fill you life with love and never stop loving you. ______, I promise you that I will always hold your dreams in my heart, be a source of strength and tenderness for you, respect the sanctity of our relationship, and build a legacy of love that we will pass on to our family.”
“You are the first an d last man/woman I have ever loved. Years ago, in my mind, I pictured you, just as you are now. I imagined our friendship, our love, and our commitment. And I searched for you – every day, year after year. When I saw you, I recognized you instantly, not by your face, but by your heart and your soul. My quest has finally ended and now I am prepared for the exciting journey that awaits us. From now on there is no “me.” There is only “we.” We will share our successes, our failures, our hopes and doubts. Thank you for being my companion in life. I love you.”
“I, ______, take you, ______, to be my husband/wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our friendship and love today, tomorrow and forever. I will trust you and honour you. I will laugh with you and cry with you. I will love you faithfully through the best and worst, through the difficult and the easy. Whatever may come, I will always be there. As I have given you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep. I love you!”
“______, will you take ______ to be your partner in matrimony, to live together in the bond of marriage? Will you love and cherish him/her in sickness and health, in times of abundance and times of lack, in good times and in bad, through your life together? If so, say “I will.”
“______, you have been my beloved and my friend for _____ years. You have sustained and heartened me through the dark times and danced with me through the light. In gratitude for what has been, and in trust of what is yet to be, I say to you before this gathered community, that I commit my love to you for the rest of my life.”
“I accept you today as my partner in life – to join our lives and hearts together, to spend our days in friendship and love, to support and encourage you in your growth, to always be open and willing to listen, and to love you through all the changes in your life.”
“Today, by the grace of God, I take you as my husband/wife. I vow to dedicate myself to your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being, and I promise that wherever our paths lead, I will love, honour, respect, and support you. I will be your most loyal friend. May God give me the strength and guidance to be a devoted and loving husband/wife to you and see you in each moment as the Divine Spirit that you are.”
“I, ______, take you, ______, to be my husband/wife. As your friend, your lover, and your confidante, let me be the shoulder you lean on, the rock on which you rest, the companion of your life. With you I will walk my path from this day forward. Love is when you look into someone’s eyes and suddenly you go all the way inside their soul and you both know it.”
“I, ______, take you, ______, to be my husband/wife, knowing in my heart that you will be my constant friend, my faithful partner, and my one true love. I promise to be there when you need me, to fill your days with love, to comfort you and encourage you, to help you reach your goals, and to love you with all of my heart, for all of my life. I give you this ring as a symbol of our love. With it, I wed you and give you my body, heart, and soul.”
“Through the best and the worst I will love you faithfully, joyfully, and honestly – not forever, but for real.
I will remember your song, and sing it to you when you forget.
I will seek your happiness as my own.
I will strive to be a clear mirror for your beauty, wholeness, and innocence.
I will be honest with you and faithful to you in word, deed and thought.
I will listen to you with an understanding heart, and clear and spacious mind.
I will trust always in the goodness of your heart and respect the fertile weight of our union.”
“I vow to appreciate you without judging, to join you without invading,
to invite you without demanding, to respect you in your choices, and to honour you in the paths you take. For tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow, I do.”
“I’m so lucky to be marrying the man/woman I love and respect so much. Your mind challenges me, your sensitivity and compassion lifts me. Your drive inspires me. In turn, I promise to look at our life as a journey, one we will travel together. I promise to be the one you look to for support and laughter. I promise to take time each day to remind you how special you are to me.”
“______, I choose you to be my husband/wife, in sickness and in health, for richer and poorer. I’ll always love to love you. Because your spirits lift my spirits higher than they could possibly go alone, and because I respect you and admire all you are, I take you to be my lawful and wedded husband/wife. I pledge to you my never-ending devotion, through sickness and health, poverty and wealth, and I pledge to you my heart, with a vow that we’ll never part. Forever, together.”
“I, ______, take you, ______, to be my beloved husband/wife, to have and to hold you, to honour you, to treasure you, to be at your side in sorrow and in joy, to laugh with you in the good times, to comfort and solace you in the bad, and to love and cherish you always. I promise you this from my heart, with my soul, and for all the days of my life, eternal.”
“I choose you this day to love and confide in, to hold on to and reach out from. I choose you this day to believe in and to share with, to learn from and grow with. I choose you this day to give you my heart. You make my days richer and add meaning to my life. I give you this ring today as a symbol of my love for you.”
“I, ______, take you, ______, to be my spouse and life partner. I promise above all else to live in truth with you and to communicate fully and fearlessly. I give you my hand and my heart as a sanctuary of warmth and peace. I pledge my love and devotion, faith and honour, as I join my life with yours.”
“______, I accept you today as my partner in life – to join our lives and hearts together, to spend our days in friendship and love, to support and encourage you in your growth, to always be open and willing to listen, and to love you through all the changes in your life.”
“You are my beloved. You are my dearest friend. Today, I promise to be your life-long partner. I promise to laugh with you, to listen and learn from you. I promise to share my life openly and honestly with you and to encourage and nurture your growth. I promise to savour each day, revelling in our loving relationship and in our pursuit of happiness. Together, we continue this journey of exploration, trust and communication.”
Q & A Vows
Here are some samples of question and answer type vows. I still make these up for you in a lovely keepsake vow booklet but I have them in the script to ask you them. All you do is say 'I do'
You can write your own ones, send them to me and I can put them into this format so that the vows are still uniquely personal to you both.
[name] Do you promise to be [name’s] faithful wife/husband, to love him/her every day, through every challenge, as long as you both shall live?
[Name] I do.
Celebrant: Do you promise to treat her/him as your equal and as your best friend?
[Name] I do.
Celebrant: Do you promise to be honest with her/ him, to listen to her/ him, to be vulnerable with her/ him, and to share with her/ him your deepest thoughts and feelings?
[Name] I do.
Celebrant: Do you promise to be the best in law you can be?
[Name] I do.
[Celebrant], do you [name] promise to be faithful and supportive, to care for, respect and love [name] in word and deed all the days of your life?
[name]: I do.
[Celebrant], do you [name] promise to work at building your life and home together, even on the tough days, to always share the burdens, to listen and to offer support in every way that you can?
[name]: I do.
[Celebrant], do you [name] promise to cherish the gift of Annmarie’s love, to nurture it with all your heart, to feed it kindness and tenderness and love her in return?
[name]: I do.
[Celebrant], do you [name] promise to always look after and care for yourself as well as one another, so your marriage may be a long and happy one. To always remember these promises you’ve made and let them guide and inspire you on the days when you may struggle. On the days when life challenges you, will you promise to reach for one another, hold each other up and face the world together.
[name]: I do.